the things i learnt from swati..

In the one year nine months i spent knowing Swati, i learnt a lot. Enough things about life, that i wished i had learnt long back. Enough to look at life in the eye.

We are completely different people. Swati will react. Instinctively. She'll immediately show if she she is happy, sad, jealous or anything. I won't. I would show a complacency in any situation. No one would know how sad, how happy, how grateful i am. They would probably just know that i am happy, sad or grateful ! She taught me to quantify my feelings.. to express my feelings clearly to people who matter. I think i seriously lost out on a lot of things because of my complacency. I lost out on people's reactions, affection, friendship, love towards me. I should have expressed myself, loud and clear.. that makes things simpler !! Swati enjoys when she enjoys. She lives life completely. I tried doing this as well and i felt so much lighter and happier! She taught me to 'connect' to people. Look at the things from their perspective, to pamper them, to care for them.

Somehow i was lost in me. I was never connecting to people. I was bound in my mundane set of rules and regulations. I realised i needed to break a few n flex a few :) I realised i needed to get back.

I made an effort to get back. I started speaking to people taking interest in their lives, genuinely. I expressed my choices, concerns, feelings clearly.I laughed, cried, sang and dance with life thrust in them. I broke the ice barriers with many a people and realized making friends was easier than i thought. I got back in touch with people, with their lives and happenings. I had to do it consciously in the beginning, but now i am enjoying the change and naturally so. Believe me, this whole new (for me) approach got me a bunch of friends whom i just knew earlier, but now i 'connect' to. One of them being, Swati herself.

That helps Swati. It was something I had always wished for. Thanks!! Kudos to u!!

P.S: (This photo was taken at her farewell before she left pune. I cracked a pj and look at her burst out on that !! Full of life.. ain't she?? )